Okay folks, I’d love your take on this one. My kid doesn’t play. She’s sweet (much of the time) and bright, but she is ALWAYS under foot. She knows where her toys are, but she would rather watch what I’m doing and “help.” Which is okay. Sometimes.
Sometimes, I just need her to go play. Build with blocks. Color on her easel. Dress her dolly. Heck, bang on pots and pans! But she won’t play unless we’re there with her, either as an engaged audience (and I do mean engaged…no zoning out in a book) or active participants.
I chatted with her daycare provider, who said the same thing.
“I have to push her to go play.”
That said, we put her to bed for a nap rather early today, and I went into a room, closed the door and painted walls. I could tell within the first half hour that she wasn’t sleeping, but I wasn’t about to come out, covered in paint and only 1/3 done with my wall. So I ignored the sounds I heard.
After two hours, I opened the door to her room, and she was happily playing on the floor! For two hours! By herself! In her room! (Of course, she’d dug out three drawers’ worth of toys and doll clothes, but that is fixable.) The second I opened the door, all playing stopped, and it was back to being my little follower.
So, how can I get my child to play like that once in a while when she is NOT supposed to be napping? Any ideas?
I can’t just disappear all the time…my house isn’t that big!
- On nurturing independence and imagination: a dance of freedom and re-connection (lovingearthmama.com)
- The magic of playing (eyeblinkfiction.wordpress.com)